I am a responsible person. I take initiative. I choose my actions, attitudes, and moods. I do not blame others for my wrong actions. I do the right thing without being asked, even when no one is looking.
7 Habits for Families
If you tend to snap and holler, criticize and berate, you probably have a malfunctioning "pause button." Covey says a "pause button" allows you to avoid blaming others or playing the victim by holding your response. The idea is to calm down and base your reaction on principles and values rather than on moods and conditions. For example, instead of snapping at your child for slapping his little sister, calm yourself down so you can deliver an even-tempered consequence.